Individuals and families from the local Muslim community in Sterling, Virginia as well as from neighboring towns and other states poured into the All Dulles Area Muslim Society (ADAMS) center Wednesday to pay their respects. The center was so full that the service overflowed into the parking lot in the 80 degree heat.
Many of those attending said they felt compelled to come after hearing about the attack in the news and on social media.
“I just wanted to support the family and the community,” said Omar Ghowrwal, 34, who traveled to the mosque alone from neighboring Ashburn, Virginia. “It’s a time in this country that we are seeing a lot of this kind of activity and it reinforces negative stereotypes. I wish we could get beyond these types of incidents, but unfortunately we keep seeing them occur over and over again.”
“She is the age of my daughter,” 44-year-old Springfield, Virginia resident Hela Elgengy said, holding back tears. “My daughter is 17 years old and she didn’t know Nabra, but another friend knew her. And I think my daughter is in the same situation. She is wearing hijab and goes to another mosque.”
“I don’t know the family,” she continued. “I’m not family. I’ve never seen Nabra in my life, but the one time I hear this in the news, I feel like I must make something for her, pray for her.”
Shocking death, but not necessarily a ‘hate crime’
The brutal killing of Hassanen has shaken the local Muslim community — especially as she was attacked hours before a man drove a van into a crowd of worshipers at a mosque in London. It prompted the Council on American-Islamic Relations to issue an alert calling for Muslim communities to step up security for Ramadan-related activities.
Hassanen, 17, died
of blunt-force trauma to the head and neck, according to the medical examiner’s office. Police say a man fatally beat her with a bat in a weekend road rage incident early Sunday morning, and that it appears the attack was not a hate crime.
But her family believes otherwise. Hassanen’s father told CNN earlier this week that he thinks his daughter was killed because she was wearing an abaya, a traditional black cloak.
“This is a hate crime,” Mahmoud Hassanen said. “It’s racism. Getting killed because she’s Muslim.”
The 2015 FBI hate crime report showed a surge
in the number of hate crimes nationwide, with attacks against Muslims increasing the most sharply. The FBI defines a hate crime as a “criminal offense against a person or property motivated in whole or in part by an offender’s bias against a race, religion, disability, sexual orientation, ethnicity, gender, or gender identity.”
In one year, anti-Muslim hate crimes in the United States rose 67%, from 154 incidents in 2014 to 257 in 2015, according to the bureau’s Hate Crime Statistics report
“That is the highest number since 2001, when the al Qaeda attacks on New York and elsewhere drove the number to its highest ever level, 481 hate crimes,” according to Mark Potok
with the Southern Poverty Law Center.
The same day her funeral was held, Hassanen’s memorial was torched in Washington. Firefighters responded to a fire at the famous Dupont Circle in the nation’s capital,where an impromptu memorial included flowers and her drawings of her face.
“It could have happened to me”
Funeral attendees Wednesday were torn on whether they believed the attack was religiously motivated, or if Hassanen was just at the wrong place at the wrong time. Many said they were only starting to wrap their heads around what had happened — but for all of them, it felt personal.
“Honestly, I’m not sure if it’s a hate crime or not, but I feel like it doesn’t matter,” said Mamata Abdou, 22, who drove to the service from Gaithersburg, Maryland, more than an hour’s drive away. “A horrible thing happened to her, but regardless of (whether or not) it was a hate crime, it was horrible — maybe someone else could have been in that situation if they were outside, I don’t know.”
Abdou said the news of Hassanen’s death shocked her. “It’s definitely terrifying because I’m young and I’m Muslim,” she said. “It could have easily happened to me.”
For Saniya Salah, 74, who lives around the corner from the mosque that Hassanen left minutes before she was attacked and has granddaughters Hassanen’s age, the attack has shaken her sense of security.
“My heart is crying. My heart is bleeding. It could happen to me, or anyone,” she said.
Salah has lived in the verdant suburban community since 1985, and said she typically leaves her door unlocked because it’s so safe.
“I’m sad, because it could happen for any one of us, it doesn’t matter about religion,” she said. “The girl didn’t make any mistakes, or bothering him. He attacked her.”
Others said they did believe the attack was a hate crime, though they can’t understand why that would happen so close to home.
“I don’t know when it’s going to end,” said Nor Ngaliman, 49, who came to the prayer service with her 18-year-old daughter Mariam Ahmed. Ngaliman said she’s been hearing of attacks across the globe, and was especially frightened for her daughter.
“I’m always worrying about her all of the time. We trust her, she’s a good daughter, but we cannot trust people outside — never,” Ngaliman said. “I would never feel that she will always be safe. We are wearing hijab like this, we feel like we never know if people will hurt us for the way we are dressed.”
A plea for understanding
Ngaliman came to the United States from Malaysia in 2006 and lives in the country with her husband and four children. Although she says she’s happy living and working here in “the best country in the world” — “the most modern, (with) the most civilized people, the most kind people,” she says — she still can’t wrap her head around the animosity that some Muslims face.
“We are living in such a global world nowadays, we shouldn’t have this kind of environment anymore,” she said. “America is very far ahead, we reached the moon you know, but our thinking is not there yet.”
She said her family has resorted to a new kind of mindset. “We will say to ourselves, ‘It’s up to God.”‘
For Elgengy, who is originally from Egypt and is also thinking about her own teenage daughter, she thinks it’s possible that Hassanen’s death is part of a bigger plan.
“The impression of Muslims must be changed,” she said. “Maybe this happened for Nabra and we lost her because it’s a message from Allah to send to all of the people that Muslims are not a terrorist. A Muslims are a good person like all Americans are.”
Turning to walk into the Mosque to pay her respects, Elgengy had one final wish. “God Bless America” she said.